Is Being Used The New Trend?

20140217-024009.jpg

Have you ever had the feeling or found out you were being used? Out of nowhere you had a funny feeling in your stomach, your body felt warm and tingling and you felt like you had to throw up? I’m sure if you live on the planet Earth and are human at some point in your life you’ve used or been used by someone, it’s just never easy when you come to realize that you’re the one being used.

Lately it seems as if I’ve been hearing a lot of stories of people being used in so many different ways. A good example of this is the recent allegation against ex-football player Terrell Owens who’s ex wife claims that he only married her for her credit score. After she realized that he needed a quick come up so he can again began to live the lifestyle he once lived when he was a professional football player, she quickly filed for divorce. The reality is this happens and is happening all the time. It seems as if the roles are switching between men and women. Women are the ones being more responsible and keeping their finances and credit in order while a lot of men are looking for a come up and are only marrying and committing to relationships if there’s some type of benefit from it. Men use to be the bread winners but it seems as if the women are the bread winners these days and running the households financially. How do you protect yourself and know when someone really loves you compared to only wanting to be with you for a benefit?
Also, people are only befriending other people because of who they know or what they can do for them. See there’s a huge difference between networking and using. Networking means the benefit is mutual. Using requires deception and lies at some point and only one party benefits from the connection or the relationship while the other side receives the short end of the stick.

It’s hard to keep a genuine spirit and freely give love and trust when there are so many vultures waiting to suck the life out of their next victim and it could be you. So without being skeptical of everyone who breaths air, how does one find a happy medium? Have you ever been used or felt used by someone you cared about? If so, how did you handle it?

2 is a party…3 is a crowd! Can a person be in a relationship and still be strictly friends with another person they’re attracted to?

Image

by: Dominique Wilson

Sometimes as you’re going through the motions of everyday life, life actually has a funny way of coming in and throwing you a curve ball. What if you’re in a relationship with someone that you don’t necessarily love and one day you meet another person that you have a strong attraction and connection to mentally, physically and emotionally? Would you just walk away from the relationship you’re already in even though it’s been a comfortable situation for the past few years? Or would you respect your current mate by staying and making the other person you just met strictly a friend? The problem is, if you make the other person strictly a friend, eventually if you keep spending time with this other individual feelings will get deeper and the relationship will gradually become more than friends. And if you leave your current situation, how do you know it would work out? Life is very uncertain and unpredictable and sometimes you have to just take a leap of faith and step outside of your comfort zone. What would you do?