Is Being Used The New Trend?


Have you ever had the feeling or found out you were being used? Out of nowhere you had a funny feeling in your stomach, your body felt warm and tingling and you felt like you had to throw up? I’m sure if you live on the planet Earth and are human at some point in your life you’ve used or been used by someone, it’s just never easy when you come to realize that you’re the one being used.

Lately it seems as if I’ve been hearing a lot of stories of people being used in so many different ways. A good example of this is the recent allegation against ex-football player Terrell Owens who’s ex wife claims that he only married her for her credit score. After she realized that he needed a quick come up so he can again began to live the lifestyle he once lived when he was a professional football player, she quickly filed for divorce. The reality is this happens and is happening all the time. It seems as if the roles are switching between men and women. Women are the ones being more responsible and keeping their finances and credit in order while a lot of men are looking for a come up and are only marrying and committing to relationships if there’s some type of benefit from it. Men use to be the bread winners but it seems as if the women are the bread winners these days and running the households financially. How do you protect yourself and know when someone really loves you compared to only wanting to be with you for a benefit?
Also, people are only befriending other people because of who they know or what they can do for them. See there’s a huge difference between networking and using. Networking means the benefit is mutual. Using requires deception and lies at some point and only one party benefits from the connection or the relationship while the other side receives the short end of the stick.

It’s hard to keep a genuine spirit and freely give love and trust when there are so many vultures waiting to suck the life out of their next victim and it could be you. So without being skeptical of everyone who breaths air, how does one find a happy medium? Have you ever been used or felt used by someone you cared about? If so, how did you handle it?


Intelligence and Religion…….are the 2 not compatible?



by: Dominique Wilson

“Most intellects do not believe in god but they fear us just the same” –Erykah Badu

I’m sure I’m not the only person that has had many conversations with highly intelligent people only to realize that their belief in God and religion is non-existent. Over the years, most intellectual people that I cross paths with challenge my belief in God and Christianity and we spend many days and nights having debates about what we believe in. Keep in mind, I said “most”, because I’m sure there are intellectual people who do have faith, but most of the ones I run across don’t.  Instead, I’ve been told that God is imaginary and man-made while science and evolution are hard core facts that can be proven with evidence. I noticed that while highly intelligent people don’t believe in The Bible, they do know every chapter and scripture from front to back and can quote everything in it. I believe this is only because they like to be informed on everything from under the sun not because they just love The Bible oh so much.  Is it safe to say that there’s a disconnection between intelligence and religion? If so, I wonder why?

Just the same, religion has also been taken out of the school systems. The word God can no longer be used in the classroom and most schools don’t say the pledge of allegiance anymore as they once did it every morning when I was growing up. I can only conclude that they don’t say it anymore because of “One Nation under God”. That gives me the perception of “in order to gain knowledge you have to lose faith”. You are gaining knowledge when you go to school right? But in the same token they don’t want you to be taught faith. So are they saying faith and knowledge don’t mix? While I respect everyone’s individuality and opinion, I’ll continue to live by these words: “I’d rather live my life as if there is a God, only to die and find out that there isn’t than to live my life as if there isn’t a God only to die and find out that there is”.