Is Being Used The New Trend?

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Have you ever had the feeling or found out you were being used? Out of nowhere you had a funny feeling in your stomach, your body felt warm and tingling and you felt like you had to throw up? I’m sure if you live on the planet Earth and are human at some point in your life you’ve used or been used by someone, it’s just never easy when you come to realize that you’re the one being used.

Lately it seems as if I’ve been hearing a lot of stories of people being used in so many different ways. A good example of this is the recent allegation against ex-football player Terrell Owens who’s ex wife claims that he only married her for her credit score. After she realized that he needed a quick come up so he can again began to live the lifestyle he once lived when he was a professional football player, she quickly filed for divorce. The reality is this happens and is happening all the time. It seems as if the roles are switching between men and women. Women are the ones being more responsible and keeping their finances and credit in order while a lot of men are looking for a come up and are only marrying and committing to relationships if there’s some type of benefit from it. Men use to be the bread winners but it seems as if the women are the bread winners these days and running the households financially. How do you protect yourself and know when someone really loves you compared to only wanting to be with you for a benefit?
Also, people are only befriending other people because of who they know or what they can do for them. See there’s a huge difference between networking and using. Networking means the benefit is mutual. Using requires deception and lies at some point and only one party benefits from the connection or the relationship while the other side receives the short end of the stick.

It’s hard to keep a genuine spirit and freely give love and trust when there are so many vultures waiting to suck the life out of their next victim and it could be you. So without being skeptical of everyone who breaths air, how does one find a happy medium? Have you ever been used or felt used by someone you cared about? If so, how did you handle it?

Don’t Change! When life throws you lemons make lemonade with a dash of vodka!

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by: Dominique Wilson

As you go through the motions of everyday life for the most part it’s hard to maintain a child like outlook when everything around you seems to crumble, people use you and take advantage of you and everything you thought was working out ending up crashing and burning. If this is happening to you, does that mean you need to take a more pessimisstic outlook on life and change your beliefs, values and character?

One thing that’s guranteed in life is change. People will change, situations will change, technology will advance and change, life will go up and down and sometimes you’ll feel like you’re on a rollercoaster ride. Would everyone be satisfied in life if it was just one boring straight line, nothing changed, everything was always the same and predictable and you never had to figure anything out? That’s why it’s called a journey because there are lessons to be learned and obstacles to overcome. Good times will occur and bad times never last. Everyone has their season to prosper and be elevate to a higher level of happiness you just have to learn how to make lemonade out of lemons and if you’re a person of good character never loose the values that were instilled in you.

“Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him.” (James 1:12)

“The Wait” Living a Celibate Lifestyle Before Marriage

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by: Dominique Wilson

Actress Meagan Good and husband DeVon Franklin are in the process of writing a relationship book entitled “The Wait”. It has an early release date of 2014 and the book is centered around Meagan and DeVon’s Christian faith and their decision to practice abstinence until they were married. Before Devon met Meagan he was celibate for 10 years and Meagan was celibate for a few months. In the book, Meagan talks about how from the moment she met DeVon she knew he was her husband. She also explains how she prayed about him and some other issues that God was dealing with her with.

In the world we live in right now you don’t see something like this being publicized all so often and more so you don’t hear people 35 and younger talking about saving themselves until marriage. Everything on the television, magazines and music is mostly about sex and how little clothes women and men can wear. There aren’t many people in entertainment encouraging their peers or people in the younger generation to cover up their bodies, stay classy, respect women and save themselves for marriage. No matter your background and no matter what you have done in the past, is it really possible to live a celibate lifestyle before marriage?