Living in Alignment with your Goals and Values…….are you really doing that shit?

by: Dominique Wilson

 

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For 6 months in 2012 and the beginning of 2013, I worked as a Financial Advisor for an awesome company named NestWise. Even though I didn’t stay there long because the company eventually went out of business, I learned so many things about myself and people during my time there. Also, being with that company made me grow out of my comfort zone tremendously because I was embarking on a career path that I’ve never tapped into. When I was first hired as a new advisor the Vice President gave me a deck of cards that had all these different values written on each card. Examples of what was written on each card were words like: Family, Love, Money, Financial Security, Charity, Freedom, Happiness, etc. He told us to narrow what we value most down to five cards; this exercise was a little hard to me and my colleagues because we felt like all the cards were a value of ours. At the end of the exercise, my VP explained to us that we need to live in alignment on an everyday basis to what we value the most and whatever it is we want most from life. I’ll never forget that exercise we did in the conference room that day and I’ve been trying to keep that as the forefront of my life ever since.

This morning I was having a conversation with a friend of mine I’ve known for the past 6 years and after we hung up I realized I’m going to delete his number and never pick up his calls again. I’m at a point in my life where I only want to surround myself with people that are on the same page as I am as far as wanting to take my life to another level. I really don’t have time for people that say one thing but do another. How can you say you want success but you in the clubs every night? What exactly are you celebrating if you can’t even afford to buy a drink in the club you are partying in? How can you say you’re looking for a wife but in the same breath say you don’t have time to date? I’m guessing a genie will cross their arms, blink twice and a wife will appear in front of you. Yup that’s it!! I’m sure he’s not the only person that wants one thing out of life but is doing the total opposite or nothing at all to get it. I see and hear many people that think their living in alignment with their goals but actually are far from it. I’m not the perfect angel but the first step in living in alignment with your values and goals is taking a step back and doing some self-evaluation. Once that step has been taken, you can then start to live within your truth and take the necessary steps towards living in alignment with everything you value most.

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Liberty Bell Tapped As Part Of MLK Day National Observance

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By Steve Tawa and Natasha Brown

PHILADELPHIA (CBS) – The Liberty Bell Center provided the backdrop in the annual “National Bell Ringing Ceremony” to mark MLK Day.

South African Counsel General George Monyemangene, who is based in New York, was among the dignitaries on hand, because he was accepting this year’s Drum Major for Freedom Award on behalf of the late President Nelson Mandela:

“This particular day marks a very important day of not only the United States, but those who believe in justice, equality and freedom,” Monyemangene said.

Governor Corbett recalls Dr. King’s famous speech just before he was killed, about going to the mountaintop and looking into the promised land:

“We can only pray that the land he saw is the one in which our children and grand children will dwell,” Corbett said.

Mayor Nutter says on the 60th anniversary of the Brown versus Board of Education decision…

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Is it possible to be “in love” with two people at the same time?

by: Dominique Wilson

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I recently was having a conversation with a friend of mine and he was telling me that he was torn between two women that he was dating at the same time. The first woman he was dating her first and they have history together. The second woman he met a couple of years later but he didn’t know he would fall so hard for her. Neither one of them have any idea about the other but he feels like soon they will find out about each other and he’s going to have to make a decision. I told him “well just pick the one you’re in love with” and his response was “I’m in love with them both”. That lead me to wonder…..is it really possible to be “in love” with two people at the same time?

I was so shocked by his answer that I immediately started to ask everyone I know about this topic. I asked ten men and they all answered “yes”. I asked ten women and each woman gave me a different answer. I concluded that most people feel as if you can love one person and be “in love” with another but you can’t be “in love” with two people at the same time. It seems as if what happens to most people is you’re dating someone and because of time, history, creating memories together and living life you eventually become comfortable and love the person you chose to be with. Then one day you actually meet your soul mate and fall “in love” but since you’re already in a relationship it’s hard to distinguish the two. I’ve been told that most people miss out on their one true love because they don’t take the opportunity to be with them given they’re already in a comfortable situation and people confuse “loving someone” with being “in love” with someone. Others, are lucky enough to meet their soulmate or one true love while they’re single and they get to live happily with this person. I believe if you’re truly in love with the first person you’re with you wouldn’t have went looking for the second person that came along. More importantly, you wouldn’t have gone so far as to fall in love with them. Has this ever happened to you? Do you believe you can fall “in love” with two people at the same time? If so, how?

Intelligence and Religion…….are the 2 not compatible?

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by: Dominique Wilson

“Most intellects do not believe in god but they fear us just the same” –Erykah Badu

I’m sure I’m not the only person that has had many conversations with highly intelligent people only to realize that their belief in God and religion is non-existent. Over the years, most intellectual people that I cross paths with challenge my belief in God and Christianity and we spend many days and nights having debates about what we believe in. Keep in mind, I said “most”, because I’m sure there are intellectual people who do have faith, but most of the ones I run across don’t.  Instead, I’ve been told that God is imaginary and man-made while science and evolution are hard core facts that can be proven with evidence. I noticed that while highly intelligent people don’t believe in The Bible, they do know every chapter and scripture from front to back and can quote everything in it. I believe this is only because they like to be informed on everything from under the sun not because they just love The Bible oh so much.  Is it safe to say that there’s a disconnection between intelligence and religion? If so, I wonder why?

Just the same, religion has also been taken out of the school systems. The word God can no longer be used in the classroom and most schools don’t say the pledge of allegiance anymore as they once did it every morning when I was growing up. I can only conclude that they don’t say it anymore because of “One Nation under God”. That gives me the perception of “in order to gain knowledge you have to lose faith”. You are gaining knowledge when you go to school right? But in the same token they don’t want you to be taught faith. So are they saying faith and knowledge don’t mix? While I respect everyone’s individuality and opinion, I’ll continue to live by these words: “I’d rather live my life as if there is a God, only to die and find out that there isn’t than to live my life as if there isn’t a God only to die and find out that there is”.

Have you ever just wondered…..what does all this mean?

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by: Dominique Wilson

In 2004, Paul Haggis produced and directed the film Crash which is mainly about racial and social tensions in Los Angeles, CA. The film is also about how the lives of the characters in the film interweave with one another because of certain events that take place in their lives. I mention this film because sometimes you have to take a step back and wonder, what does it all mean?

Many times we cross paths with certain people in our lives and don’t realize how the connection we just made has a deeper meaning than what we see in front of us. On the surface it just seems as if we’ve met someone new and have common interests. If not that, sometimes it may just seem as if we’ve cross paths with someone because of a certain event, experience or circumstance. But what if we all played a small but key role in some stranger’s life before we even met them in the flesh and don’t know it? If we could all sit back and watch a movie called “My Life” I’m sure each and every one of us would be pleasantly surprised to see how the connections we made with certain people in our lives was already written and had deeper meanings to them than what we initially thought.

Personally speaking, I think about all the relationships in my life, current and past, friendships, partnerships, business connections, casual connections and romantic relationships and I always think about how did it start and why. I think about the significant role each person either played or is still playing in my life. I also wonder what does it mean for my future.