by: Dominique Wilson
I recently was having a conversation with a friend of mine and he was telling me that he was torn between two women that he was dating at the same time. The first woman he was dating her first and they have history together. The second woman he met a couple of years later but he didn’t know he would fall so hard for her. Neither one of them have any idea about the other but he feels like soon they will find out about each other and he’s going to have to make a decision. I told him “well just pick the one you’re in love with” and his response was “I’m in love with them both”. That lead me to wonder…..is it really possible to be “in love” with two people at the same time?
I was so shocked by his answer that I immediately started to ask everyone I know about this topic. I asked ten men and they all answered “yes”. I asked ten women and each woman gave me a different answer. I concluded that most people feel as if you can love one person and be “in love” with another but you can’t be “in love” with two people at the same time. It seems as if what happens to most people is you’re dating someone and because of time, history, creating memories together and living life you eventually become comfortable and love the person you chose to be with. Then one day you actually meet your soul mate and fall “in love” but since you’re already in a relationship it’s hard to distinguish the two. I’ve been told that most people miss out on their one true love because they don’t take the opportunity to be with them given they’re already in a comfortable situation and people confuse “loving someone” with being “in love” with someone. Others, are lucky enough to meet their soulmate or one true love while they’re single and they get to live happily with this person. I believe if you’re truly in love with the first person you’re with you wouldn’t have went looking for the second person that came along. More importantly, you wouldn’t have gone so far as to fall in love with them. Has this ever happened to you? Do you believe you can fall “in love” with two people at the same time? If so, how?